Good Grief

Another treasure from my friend Shannon McFadden – Global Grandma. Check out her blog. https://shannonmcfaddensblog.com

Shannon Mcfadden - Global Grandma

There are as many ways to experience grief as there are human beings on this planet. Grief is a very visceral unique awful feeling, experienced with loss. The loss could be a person place or thing. Where there’s change is the possibility of feeling loss and grief.  Kubler-Ross defined 4 predictable stages to the grieving process; shock, denial, bargaining, and anger.  One can move quickly through each stage or slowly or stay stuck in any one stage indefinitely.

At work there are time limits set for how long you are given off work.   Anywhere from a day to a whopping 5 days to grieve a loved ones passing. Unfortunately people have used this as an unrealistic gauge of how long is an acceptable time to grieve. Fortunately research doesn’t support this silliness.  Studies have shown it takes time to regain our stride in life after a loss.  The greater the loss…

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The Buck Stops Here

Written by my friend Shannon McFadden – Global Grandma

Shannon Mcfadden - Global Grandma

I don’t remember when I shut down. It must have been at a very young age, 3 years old maybe. What I mean by shut down is close my heart so I didn’t feel. I didn’t want to feel the pain of my mother’s hostility. Her anger. So I stopped shining my light. I stopped loving. I stopped feeling anything except a deep anger. It came out in all my interactions. I had to really work at being nice. Being nice was acceptable. The thing is, when nice is covering up anger, it comes out as mean sarcasm. And I was very sarcastic and mean at times. Especially when I felt hurt. I realize by shutting down, I didn’t effectively shield myself from the pain of the outside world, I only stopped giving my light. I stopped experiencing the world as a fun and joyful place. In the end I…

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